What happens if you wish someone dead

Is it, though? But this is the kind of unexamined assumption we moral philosophers get the big money to critically investigate.

But here are three reasons on the other side. What matters morally are the attitudes that underlie the wishing. I suspect this is true of many, many other people faced with the care of their psychologically and physically spent loved ones. Second, people who wrong others through deliberate misinformation, negligence, and disrespect merit anger from, and on behalf of, those they wrong. Anger fits wronging. Sometimes that message is best communicated by those who have been wronged.

But sometimes those wronged have no access to the wronger so as to communicate the demand. Third, Mudd points only to the consequentialist reasons in favor of someone being held accountable for their wrongful actions. The death of such a person might finally wake said followers up to the realities of the threat, saving countless lives. Wishing such an influential person dead might again actually reflect a commitment to life and its dignity.

And there are of course other goods that might be produced by the death that could be relevant to the wishing. I hasten to add some caveats: First, wishing someone dead is perfectly compatible with harboring a range of other attitudes toward that person or the circumstances, including sadness about how things got to this point, and some sympathy for the person given their horrible upbringing.

Second, there are various ways one might express the wish. Two notes. First, thanks to a great friend for very helpful comments on this post, many of which I have incorporated. Second, comments on this post will be closely moderated. Comments on the moral philosophy — and only the moral philosophy — welcome. Ooo, interesting as always! And second, we can ask: can it communicate the moral demand of my anger in particular?

Unless that victim somehow is confused enough to experience the AoG as expressing a demand from the one s he has wronged. Indeed, Olivia, it seems to me clear to me that it would be a paradigmatic thought on the part of the wronged party to wish for God to strike the wrongdoer down.

It is to root for the person to get hurt or more. Does anger want communication, or does it want pain, or does it just want the target to learn a lesson, painfully? A Karmic lesson might actually be what we, the angry, would sometimes prefer. Does what the wish does to the wisher or wishers get included in the possible consequences of wishing someone dead?

And what results from this failure to see or acknowledge worthy actions? Are wishes morally evaluable as right or wrong? Is wishing? Thanks, Olivia! I instead think that anger evaluates a slight as such and so aims for the message to be communicated to the wronger in a way that will get the wronger to acknowledge the wrong and be remorseful for it. As I attempted to move on, I stumbled upon one man's take on the funeral snub. A stranger to me, he had posted on a friend's Facebook criticism of the president's decision not to attend.

This was certainly not the first time someone had wished the president dead, and probably not the last. About half of America disapproves of President Obama; his latest Gallup approval rating comes in at 52 percent, incidentally about the same rating Reagan had in March , his last year in office, Politico reported Thursday. On March 9, we endured renewed grief over the loss of a dear friend the year before.

March 9 would have been his 25th wedding anniversary, and we mourned with his wife, whom my husband has known since they were 8 years old. We cursed the unfairness of it all. We imagined him telling a good portion of Heaven's inhabitants his latest string of jokes. We wondered if he were organizing all of the other Boy Scout leaders in community service projects.

That's awful. Wishing someone dead is never a joke. There's nothing satirical about wishing the ultimate grief upon another. Home Opinion Letters to the Editor Editorials. Facebook Twitter Email. Wishing someone dead is no joke.

It's politics, stupid. And people make stupid comments. I was recently hexed over Facebook, now as a student of spirituality, I am aware of the negative consequences this could present back to the person who believes in their ability to cause spiritual harm. Mind you it was not Me who called her out for her statement.

But she blamed me, and thusly hexed me. Her health is very poor, she recently had a double lung transplant and her body is fighting the new lungs. She already has so many issues.

However is it better to just ride out this bad luck I am currently havin? I know things will get better for me. I honestly forgive her for the thought, and I want her to have better days, I am sure this happened within her own head and she is feeling tremendous grief and anger regarding her situation. Are you able to help with this? And yes, you can offer a blessing to her as well as ask that this misguided attack be neutralized.

It will be up to her, her guides, and the Universe or whatever word you choose to make that happen, but it is possible — especially as it is coming from a place of compassion from you. Amen or So Be It. Thank you for your kind heart. I will add my prayer to yours for her. Many blessings to you.

My husband is a malignant narcissist who has been abusing me for 25 years. I cannot leave, as i have nowhere else to go. I was an adopted child and the elderly people who adopted me are dead. The police is no help either, a few years ago he almost beat me to death and they did not even arrest him. Then of course he pressured me to withdraw the case against him also. He is ridiculously rude and abusive to me every single day.

In front of our children too. I have prayed to the christian god for years, i have cried out to the universe for years, nothing and nobody is gonna come and rescue me. He has told me that he frequently wishes me dead.

I wish it could be different but by now i wish him dead too. I am so sorry that you are experiencing this. This is wrong. Additionally, there are organizations in my country that specifically help women like you including your children to leave abusive men. Abuse of any kind is not okay, and should not be accepted. I will add my prayers to yours that you get help, and that you find a way out, with the support you need to protect yourself and your children.

May it be so. What to do when my neighbours constantly wishes death on me and mumbles expletives on me and constantly stares at me when i go outside makes fun of irregular speech patterns i have speech impediment with autism.

Also i have to Deal with bullies at school. Firstly, if you are seriously thinking of harming yourself, please please reach out to your local suicide hotline for help. What you are going through bullying and property destruction, for example is not right. The people who are doing this to you should be held accountable. Can you go to your head of school and ask for help? I am not sure where you live, but most schools have systems in place to help students who are experiencing what you described.

In the USA, the suicide hotline is open every hour of every day: Please ask for help however you can in your local community. A speech impediment is nothing to be ashamed of or bullied over.

I am sending you all the hope in the world that you will find help and peace. I was also in a abusive relationship with a narcissist for yrs — not physically but every other. I left him and because he feels shame has made it his life goal to try to destroy me, my job prospects, financially, turn my friends and family against me etc.

His grown kids have disowned him and our children prefer not to see him. I sometimes wish he would just do it and release us all but then feel horrible for thinking that.

Christy, I hear you and understand. That, at the end of the day, is what is most important. Nobody is impervious to karma. My hope for you is that you continue to do what is healthy and best for yourself and your kids.

Knowing that at the end of the day, you can truly only care for yourself, and everyone is ultimately responsible for their own behaviors and actions in this life. Hi Hayu, Firstly, I am so sorry your heart is hurting.

And so the cycle continues. Your anger and all your other feelings are fully justified if you have been hurt. I would simply suggest that, instead of continuing the cycle, you work with someone who can actually help you heal.

Because until you heal yourself, you are allowing your FWB to continue to hurt you — without actively doing anything. My hope for you is that you love yourself enough to stop that, break the cycle, and get the help you deserve to heal from the inside out. I was horrifically abused as a child. I had experience a horrific amount of pain in my life and still do. But i used to wish people to die because i couldnt handle all the pain i had on the inside.

I only wanted them to feel the pain that was inflicted on me not knowing they had no idea how much pain was already inflicted on me. One day i woke up not going in to detail but i realized all that was evil. Actually apart of me was also numbed to life for about 30 years. I have told the truth to God and have asked his forgivenesss knowing i never wanted people to die or bad to happen to anyone.

And God knows how much pain i have on the inside. I fight with this everyday. Asking God to forgive me everyday for anything. Inside i didnt mean it i just wanted people to quit inflicting pain on me when i didnt on them. I also was so abused that i cannot totally function socially. My mind and mentally was stunted as a child and still is. Does anybody have any input? Hi Sandy, You are very brave. My hope and prayer is that you find peace and love inside yourself, and that with time, that peace and love heal your wounds so that you may be free.

You most certainly are deserving of grace, healing, and love. And if you can, I hope that you receive professional help to assist you with the trauma you undoubtedly experienced.

Sending you blessings on your journey. Hi Martina. My wife and I, along with my two younger boys, just moved to a brand-new house. We have a wooden panel fence along the side of the house that defines our property line, but the fence belongs on our side of the property. Our neighbors painted their side of the fence and speckles of paint were sprayed onto our entire side of the house exterior siding, walls, windows and frames, and trims. They were made aware of the damages but have been ignoring my attempts for resolution.

Why do people not take responsibility and accountability for their actions? It makes me sick to my stomach. I was searching on the web how to wish bad things upon people — then, I came across your website. I want bad things to happen to them so they can learn their lesson. How do I take the high road on this?

Please help. Hi Jin, Firstly, thank you for the kind comment about my site being calming and sensical. I do my best. Secondly, there are of course other paths you can take here, but it all depends on where you want to expend your energy. For starters, you can look into legal options, such as a small claims court, which would be most effective if you have documented proof such as pictures proving their culpability.

That would be the most tangible solution. However, that would only solve for the actual damage. This is why you are feeling so awful about this. The downside is, when people are feeling awful like this, they believe the remedy is to pass that awful feeling onto others. It just makes more awful in the world. You want them to change, to become aware, to take responsibility. This is all outside of you.

So, in essence, you are looking for an external solution to an internal problem. This will never work. Instead of doing that, it would be better to heal your internal conflict, internally.

Are they selfish because they are wounded? Raised that way? It can be a million things. There is no real answer to the question you ask. So, the only thing to do is to ask a different question. You can resolve the conflict without your neighbors doing or changing anything. Your biggest hurdle to feeling better is knowing or remembering that you have this control.

Once you remember it, then you can take steps in your own life to feel better. Sadly, there seems to be no lack of people like your neighbors, but I believe that we can deliberately, and intentionally, create more people like yourself who prioritize sensibility and calm by LIVING from that internal core. I hope this helps. Thank you for reaching out. It just shows how over-extended we are. So, my first thought is: Do you have support? Can you get help? Use that phrase, it will help.

But what will help more would be to find ways to get you more support so you can increase the amount of physical, emotional, and mental real estate you have. When we say mean things out of exhaustion, it shows that we have no more space. We are out of bandwidth, and sometimes we get snippy.